WHAT WILL HAPPEN IN A COUNSELLING SESSION?
The first session is a chance for us to meet each other and for you to get a 'feel' of how the counselling sessions will be.I will ask you what has brought you to counselling at this time in your life.I will give you plenty of space and time to talk about your difficulties.If you are worried about crying or showing strong feelings in the first session it may be of help to you to know that this is a very common concern especially if feelings have been bottling up for a while and you haven't had a safe place to express them.Remember too, that as an experienced counsellor I have witnessed many many people show their distress. I am used to it, I won't be shocked. I won't judge you or think you're weak for showing emotion.
I may ask you questions in the first session which will help me get a better understanding of your difficulties. You are completely free to decide not to answer any questions. Its important that you decide the pace and extent of the emotional work you want to engage with.#
I'VE HAD AN AFFAIR, WON'T YOU JUDGE ME FOR THIS AND THINK ITS MY FAULT MY RELATIONSHIP HAS PROBLEMS?
It is not my job to judge or take any moral highground. My job is to help your relationship recover and move forwards hopefully with renewed insights.
ARE YOU TRYING TO KEEP OUR MARRIAGE TOGETHER?
I will help to facilitate whatever is best for the two of you. I do not have a set agenda to try and keep all relationships together. This may not be the best thing for you.
Sometimes the best way forward is to agree to seperate or split. If this can be done with understanding and maybe even care for eachother, then so much the better. T his is particularly desirable when children are involved.
HOW MANY SESSIONS WILL WE NEED?
During the first session we can get some idea of the issues you are bringing. Even then it can be hard for me to say with certainty how many sessions you will need. Many individuals and couples start off with an agreement for 6 sessions but stay for many more once they realise they have deeper underlying issues.
It is always a good idea to come weekly at the beginning. This builds up the atmosphere of trust and continuity and can enable important work to take place.
HOW MUCH DO YOU CHARGE?
- I charge one sessions payment deposit for individual sessions.This lasts for one hour.
- I charge £45-£50 for couple work which also lasts for one hour.
The payment is given weekly after each session.
After the first session I ask for one session's deposit. This means that if you were coming for individual sessions you would pay £40 deposit which will redeemed whenever the last session takes place and basically means you don't pay for the last session as you've paid during the first session.
ENDING THE SESSIONS
Usually we discuss when it feels 'right' for the sessions to come to an end. Hopefully by then you will have acheived some of the goals you set out to achieve at the beginning of counselling. Maybe you didn't have goals but just wanted to feel happier and have more clarity in your life.
Maybe you needed to work on saving your relationship or find an amicable ending. Either way there will be often be a 'sense' from the client that most of the important work has been done. Sessions can then be tailed off; fortnightly, three weekly etc.
A minimum of two weeks notice is required when finishing sessions, however, this is usually agreed in collaboration with the counsellor.